It’s hard to believe that Kemi and I met less than two years ago, we have similar interests, and she is funny and very kind. We don’t do the party scene, we will rather watch a movie at home or just visit each and gossip about happenings around us. I introduced her to my other friends though I never met hers because she said she hardly keep friends. Her parents were over joyed when they were told she got a job through my contact, her parents are poor so the fact that she can contribute to the family’s upkeep and help out with her siblings was a huge relief. The fact that she got a job before me never dimmed our friendship, her relationship with Lekan, the man she met through her colleague was going stronger by the day and I was happy for her. All that changed though when I got a job.
An advertising company here in Lagos called me for an interview seven months after service, I couldn’t even remember sending my CV to the organization. The lady that called me for the interview asked if I could come by 8am the next day and I said yes. I went for the mid-week service after that and I came back a little late, all I could do was eat and grabbed my GMAT in preparation for the interview. I woke up early next morning and got to the venue of the interview by 7.30am, 30minutes before the stipulated time. The managing director of the company saw me waiting at the reception on his way in and asked the receptionist if I was one of the interviewees which she replied in the affirmative. The MD asked me if I know how to use the major social media very well and asked another staff to test my knowledge of Twitter application. Just that! and when I did well, I was asked if I can resume work immediately. I was dazed! I asked for the remuneration and welfare package of the company, what they offered was higher than I expect. I was over the moon.
I called my mum and sister immediately I was shown my cubicle then sent a text message to Kemi, “Ore you won’t believe this! I got a job! I mean I am at work right now. Full gist later tonight.” I dropped my phone and focused on the orientation I was being given by one of my new colleagues. I checked my phone twice before the closing time, but there was neither a call, text or whatsapp message from Kemi, I was a little worried because a day has never gone by without us having at least a chat, I called her number immediately I left the office but she didn’t pick, I decided to wait till I get home and give her the full gist of my miracle Job.
When I got home though, I was quite surprised by the message I received from her! “So you got an offer of employment and you never bothered to tell me till you resumed. Nawa o”. I was dumbfounded, not even a congratulation! How could she conclude like that without asking how it came about. I called her immediately and I could hear from her voice that she was really furious, I apologized and explained to her that it was totally unexpected. She calmed down a little and congratulated me. I didn’t understand why she was so angry though but I let that slide. Then barrage of questions began.
Kemi wanted to know how much my salary is, I told her it’s 120,000 and she Screamed! I never asked her how much she is being paid and she said “that’s 50k more than my salary, you are Lucky o”. That means her salary is 70k, she wanted to know if there will be other allowances, if traveling will be involved since it’s an advertising agency, she wanted to know the staff strength and if there are handsome single guys there. I was a little taken aback by her attitude so I gently cut her short that I need to eat now but will give her fill gist when we see by the weekend.
Two weeks after I resumed work, one of my cousins came by the house and gave me some money to shop for office wears, Kemi was the first person I called to ask if she will be free to follow me to get some things for myself. She agreed to go with me but she kept saying “Fiyin, you are now a big girl o, levels don change”. I have never seen this side of Kemi. Is she envious of me? Or am I being too sensitive? I shrugged and concluded that she is just being her funny self.
Few months later, one of my colleagues informed us that she is getting married and brought asoebi to the office for 7000 naira, i told Kemi about the wedding and asked if she will like to follow me, she said that on the condition that I will buy her own asoebi. I laughed over it and collected asoebi for both of us and I paid the 14000 naira with the intention of collecting her own share of the money when I give her the cloth.
I gave the cloth to Kemi and asked for the money, she said that she doesn’t have money, besides she had already told me that she will go with me only if I was willing to pay for her own asoebi. She said after all, I earn more than her and I don’t have any responsibility at home since both my parents are working and don’t need me to contribute to the upkeep of family. I bore the cost of the cloth and kept quiet.
Few weeks later, a mutual friend of ours who served in the same PPA with her informed us about her wedding and she brought Asoebi for both of us. Kemi said I should borrow her the money that she will pay by month end. I borrowed her the money and when the month ended and I asked her, she flared up and said can’t I wait a little while? That she can’t run away because of 3000 naira. I kept quiet and Kemi refused to pay the money till date. I let that slide also.
Gradually, big cracks developed in our friendship, I don’t feel comfortable with her again. If I told her that I went out with a guy on a Saturday, she will say I am a big girl now that my level has changed. I never felt like that when she and Lekan started their relationship. I had no choice but to keep some things from her. When I got fed up with her attitudes, I told my brother about it and he advised that I should call her and have a heart to heart talk with her so that I can find out what is making her act that way.
I called her asked why she changed all of a sudden, why she always give snide remarks to everything I say or do. I was speechless when she mentioned that I didn’t tell her when I got a job till I resumed. She said she didn’t believe my story that it was totally unexpected. I was too weak to even argue with her. How could she still bear a grudge over that all this while? She also said that I buy nice things for myself and never even help her out, knowing fully well that she has so many dependants with her little salary. I couldn’t even ask her in what way she expect me to help her. When she started working and I was still going about looking for job, she never sent even recharge cards to me for once or do anything for me, if we go out then, I pay my fare and she pay hers. I apologized again but I was so sad at the turn of events and I realized that Kemi can no longer be trusted.
I am yet to recover from the shock I got when I met one of Kemi’s colleague who introduced Lekan to her at Ikeja and she asked how preparation is going. What preparation? She said Kemi and Lekan’s wedding of course. I can’t even remember what I said to the lady I must have sounded so silly, I couldn’t believe Kemi will keep something like that from me. Why? I still chat with her that same day, she never mentioned anything.
It’s been two weeks since I got to know, yet she hasn’t told me. I was confused as to what I should do. Should I ask her? Should I pretend I didn’t hear? The wedding is in two weeks. We communicate almost every day!.
What should I do?
Exactly a week to the wedding, I received a text message from Kemi, “I had my registry wedding today, engagement is on Saturday. Full gist later”. I am yet to reply her message. So this is her pay back? Should I go for the wedding?.